While on facebook last night, I clicked on something by accident and this photo of Trek popped up. It made my heart skip a beat. I have seen it many times before, but it struck me. In that moment I was flooded and remembered the smell and feeling of his body, and the way I felt when I was around him so potently, like it was real life. Of course it wasn’t, and I felt myself compelled to kiss the computer screen, Jarrett does it to sometimes when Trek’s photo is up, it makes me sad, I know its sad, but we both do it. 
Can’t you see how I felt like it was real life? He is looking right at me and I remember the way his nose felt to kiss with its patch of dry skin, the way his skinny arm felt to hold, it was so soft, how his hand grasped around my finger, the emotions I felt when he smiled at me: the deepest emotions, touching places no one has ever touched before, how I had to gently hold his body and make sure his knees did not bump into each other since he could not hold them up on his own. And for some reason this photo made me think of the day he died, and when life went from him and how I long for it back, everything was ok when he had life. I tell him that a lot, and whisper it into the air, “Trek, everything would be alright if you were here.”
But I don’t want to make this a sad post, even though tears are streaming down my face. I just needed to put some pictures up of him, it always warms my heart. I love, more than words can ever say, looking at photos of him and his beauty. I also like keeping up with my thoughts and feelings of my journey as Trek’s mother, what I feel today feels so normal and like it will never go away, but I know it will change and take many forms, and I want to remember all of it.
oh man-this picture! that smile melts me:)
Trek on mine and Jarrett’s sushi date:)
Conner and Trek
Beautiful
thanks Emma-xoxo
Sweet Chelsea – I have had just the teensiest glimpse of what you feel – seeing these pictures of Trek makes me weep for what is lost, but at the same time, his beautiful face makes me smile and brightens my day. It is very easy to understand your need to put these feelings out where you can “touch” them; our “momminess” never goes away, even if our children do. I don’t think your screen kisses are sad at all – just a mommy and a daddy being a mommy and a daddy. All of you are in my thoughts every day, especially today. Much love to all of you.
thanks Cathy, you always know exactly what I am saying. It is refreshing and I thank you for all your support. xoxo
Seeing Trek’s sweet face brings tears to my eyes every time. But, I know it’s not even close to how your heart feels. I touch his sweet face on the screen as I get caught up in his beautiful smile & eyes and can’t stop staring. What an amazing baby boy. I love all of you so much.
thanks Mama, it made me smile that you touch his face too on the computer. I know we all wish that we could touch his real sweet face, I am sorry you lost your grandson. I love you-Chelsea
Your precious boy. Thank you for sharing his sweetness and his purity with us, Chelsea. I am so sorry. You are finding your way on your journey of mourning but what a heartbreaking path is is.
Thinking of you all.
Your Ohio friend,
Connie
thank you Connie, I feel the path I am on too, and how I am moving along it. I feel at peace in a strange way as I go along, even though as you said it is heartbreaking. It is a path I never wished to go on. thanks for your encouragement-xoxo
I was hoping for a Trek post! I see only LOVE in kissing the screen, wanting your baby near you…that is so normal and human. I often wonder how you reflect on the day Trek died…I dont know how a mom moves past that place. I am so amazed how beautifully you do move forward, while still holding Trek so close. Willow asked to see Trek’s pictures this morning…she was telling me how happy Heaven is and asked if he could see all of us. We are blowing kisses up to Heaven and out toward Thailand (which my kids love to point out on the map! Hi Conner! Hi Peyton! Hi Miss Chelsea! Hi Mr. Jarrett! Kisses up to Trek!)
I hope to meet your sweet children one day! I love all of your comments, they are so thoughtful and kind. Thanks and tell Willow hi from us too:) xoxo
oh I hope that happens one day! I’m sad to say we’ve taken a step back from home schooling (still a goal)…but I’m still holding the hope that we will somehow hit the road eventually. Nashville and Maine are far from Surat Thani, but we’re here if you are ever close. perhaps one day…what fun our children would have!!
I have the flu and my eyes are constantly tearing but as I read this post, I knew my eyes weren’t tearing because of the flu. I’ve said this many times before, I cannot imagine what you’re going through losing your son. But you are a strong woman filled with so much love..I think I would just crumble, I’m not strong like you. I love that first photo..I would want to kiss it too. Xx
thank you so much Marie, it is so hard, I never imagined having to go through this. I am sorry you have the flu-that is the pits, I hope you feel better soon! And thanks, as always, for your sweet words-xoxo
OH that picture! You are right, it is almost like he is right there reaching out. I cannot imagine your sweet heart sister. I miss him. I love that pictures help you, even if in the smallest way. He is so beautiful to look at! I love you and am sending my love to you all right now and always.
i know, that picture….love you
What treasures these pictures of Trek are! Such a sweet face. You are on my heart daily Chelsea – I imagine (hope) this part of your journey to be the most arduous and
that it will lighten up as much as it can each day. You and your guys will always be an inspirational source for me. Keep on keepin on sister! Peace and Aloha from CA
thank you so much Maria, your comments always lighten my heart, thanks for being there-xoxo
I just went back and read about Trek’s last day. I am sobbing and praying and sending love. xo
i know, that is the worst day of our lives. thanks for your sweet words-xoxo
Chelsea, the pictures are beautiful.. Those eyes will live on with us forever. I have almost learned to control my emotions if I move by quickly but I always ask God if He is taking good care of him. I love you all and wish I could easeyour pain.
thank you MawMaw for your love and prayers, it means so much to us. I love you, love ,Chelsea
Such a beautiful boy, how could you not kiss the screen! Xxx
I know Tanya:) xoxo
Trek is such a cutie pie! I love his smile and his big eyes. I bet the boys have such great personalities.. You can see it in the pics.. And the love in your eyes! I look forward to your post.. Some times I cry and some times I laugh!! You have shown me parts of the world I would never had seen. I think u.. For my daily life lessons u and ur family teach me!! Love bunches!!
Wow, thank you so much Stacy, that was such a nice note to read, thanks for reading and keeping up with us. xoxo ,Chelsea
Oh Chelsea, I certainly could see how that sweet face was calling for your kiss in that photo. Trek is just so precious. We do the same thing with sweet wylder … Kissing computers, phones, picture frames ect has somehow become the new norm. I am so sorry Chelsea. We all miss little trek. Sending you lots of love. Xoxo
it made me smile when I read you kiss your pictures and computer too of Wylder. Our boys are just so cute, it is inevitable:) xoxo
For me baby pictures are so hard to look at period. Even the babies on the side of the diaper boxes choke me up if I look to long. It’s a reminder of how quickly time passes and things change:(. I still kiss my 10yr olds baby pictures from time to time, and even shed tears. She’s so old now! Even though her wrist still bears the mark were here fat little arm shoved into her fat little hand it’s just a faint line now. I feel for you momma. Sometimes I wish I could wrap up my chubby 16 mo old to send over to you for some baby squeeze time , but even she wants to wriggle out of your lap now.
Oh Lauren, I would totally take some snuggles from your baby!!! and I know about the chubby arm line:) I love that line too:) thanks for sharing your kind thoughts-xoxo
Trek had such a contagious smile with eyes that captured your heart. I’m do glad you have so many photos and sweet memories.
We love you.
thank you Beth, I am so thankful too.
Who wouldn’t want to kiss the screen with that precious face staring at you! Such a sweet & precious soul that certainly captured many, many hearts. I hate that you and your sweet guys have to feel this pain. I love y’all very much!
I know:) I saw jarrett’s screen today and right where Trek’s face is on his screen saver, there is a big smudge from where he always touches it. It made my heart smile a sad smile, it was so sweet.