I finally caught up on my sleep last night! It was so nice, I went to bed around 6 pm and now I am the only one awake having some alone time at 5 am. I have had such a hard time sleeping since Trek died. We all usually start getting sleepy and head to bed around 10 or 11 pm but I can’t fall asleep until around 3 or 4 in the morning. Sometimes it is nice, I look at pictures of Trek, catch up with old friends by email, or I journal all about the fun things we did that day. Sometimes it is awful and sad. I look at pictures of Trek and cry until I have no more tears left. I told Jarrett what is hard is it feels like a prison those nights.
I was listening to Bob Marley’s “3 Little Birds” song yesterday, don’t worry about a thing, every little thing is gonna be alright. We sing that song all the time, it is one of our favorites and I do believe it. Here I am with 2 beautiful children, with only happy memories and no regrets of a 3rd child and a strong wonderful husband. But I can’t help but feel a little off when that song comes on, sometimes I sing it through tears. Because even though I will be alright it will only be part of me. Some part of me is not alright because it is gone with Trek.
Me missing Trek and not sleeping does not make me sad, it gives me peace. (even though sometimes it is soo annoying!) It is a tangible reminder that he is real and how much I love him. He is so worth missing! look at this precious face!
We have had a very busy last couple of days. Some of our friends from Maui are on their honeymoon in Chiang Mai and they invited us to come and visit them! The prospect of getting to touch and see a real life friend instead of talk over the internet was just too much-we had to go! The only thing is Chiang Mai is 134 kilometers away from Pai. I did a little research to see how crazy we were to attempt the journey by moped with 2 children and could not find a whole lot of info. I was mainly just making sure no one said, “DONT DO IT!”, but no one had really done it, so that was our cue to go for it!
It took 3 hours by bus to get from Chiang Mai up into the mountains of Pai. It took us 6 hours by motorbike to get down the mountains! It was all fun and no pain, so we were thrilled, but soo tired. We got to our hotel, stripped down to take a hot shower only to look at the clock and see we were supposed to meet our friends 2 minutes ago. So back goes on our dirty clothes and we ran out to grab a tuk tuk (no more scooter for our sore butts for that night!). We arrived at the Night Bazzaar to meet Jen and Colt right when they pulled up-perfect timing!
Besides looking like dirty vagabonds, we had such a fun and relaxing night catching up and swapping adventure stories (they had a rockin honeymoon!).
I have tons of pictures, I just can’t upload them now since my camera is in the hotel room and I’m out in the lobby so I don’t wake up my famliy (aka I accidently locked myself out).
I hope my sleepless nights get a little better or at least last only until 1 am just enough time for me to make googly eyes at Trek’s pictures and drift off. At least I now i know what can combat my sleeplessness-a 6 hour moped ride! It knocks me right out.
We had planned on heading back to Pai today so we could celebrate Peyton’s 7th birthday at the house where all his presents are hiding, but he requested we stay in Chiang Mai for his birthday. It was actually a great request because it will extend his celebration to 2 days since I have a whole party planned back at the house too. He wants a cell phone to call his friends and Nana back in the States so we are going to go shopping for one today and see whatever other fun we can find! (that will definately include a Starbucks!)
I think I might sneak off on a tuk-tuk while everyone is asleep and get one now, if only I could figure out how to get back in the room for my shoes…
As I read this the song is playing overhead in Starbucks. Literally as I read the words “every little thing is gonna be alright” played in sequence. Hope Peyton’s birthday is fabulous! Sending my love and prayers
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that is so cool! its such a beautiful song-enjoy maui for me:)
Dear Chelsea – I continue to look forward to every single blog post of yours – and I sometimes check my in-box just to see if there is a new one… this morning I found myself asking: I wonder how Chelsea is doing…
I just finished reading this last post and wish that every grieving mother could read your blog (I’ve never lost a child that I held in my arms) but I can imagine if I had your insights and ways of living through this loss and grief would give me much comfort and I’m sure it is to many that are grieving the loss of a loved one. You say “Me missing Trek and not sleeping does not make me sad, it gives me peace. (even though sometimes it is soo annoying!) It is a tangible reminder that he is real and how much I love him. He is so worth missing! look at this precious face!” This moved me to the core… such wisdom you are sharing and what profound insight – thank-you for sharing it with the world !!
xoxo
that means so much to me that you keep up with our family. thanks for your encouragement, i wish no mama ever had to go thru this, it is a hard and long road, it is a huge encouragement for you to say those words about my grieving. much love, Chelsea
Virtual hugs, Chelsea! Thinking about your loss makes me soooo sad. One of my closest friends is 5 months pregnant and just found out that their baby boy has a narrowing of the aorta. We are praying that he gets better as the pregnancy progresses. She is in New Zealand and is determined to embrace life now. Trek may be physically gone but he lives in each and every person that he’s inspired to embrace life. And he couldn’t have done it without his beautiful family.
i hope your friends sweet baby gets better, sending them so much love and peace, what a stressful and long journey they have ahead. thanks for you love and kind words as always Marie-xoxo
I’m up too! It’s 1am here! I’m sooooo sleepy but little one is not, he’s poorly and struggling to sleep. Would you grab me a coffee whilst your there please, if you can get to your shoes…..
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i would love to get you a coffee! enjoy your sweet little angel-xoxo
aww chelsea trek is soo very real and is loved so very much i miss his sweet face and i cant imagine how much his mommy does. im so glad u have all the wonderful memories with him of traveling and snuggles just as u always wanted. we love you all and are praying daily. and kudos on the 6 hour moped ride ouch on ur bums hehe! cant wait to see pics and have a wonderful wonderful happy 7th birthday sweet Peyton!! u rock!!
thanks about the moped ride-it was a big adventure for us! and yes missing Trek is so hard, thanks for taking this journey with me. xoxo
Hugs my Love…Hope you got you coffee! Have 2 SUPER birthday parties!!!
thanks nancy for the hug:) got my coffee-xoxo
I think you are holding a huge place in my heart, I seem to always feel emotional when I feel that you are having a tough time..I know no time is easy for you, but I especially can sense some of your hard nights I think. I am so sorry Chelsea, I wish more than anything to make it all go away and bring you all back to when your baby boy was in your arms again.
I am so happy you got to see Jennifer and Colt! How fun!! I’m glad the traveling part was not too bad and how adventurous of you all:) Tell my sweet sweet nephew happy birthday from us!! Oh how badly I wish we could celebrate him with you! I miss them soo soo much it almost hurts:) Tears usually flow when I think of your boys, happy tears because of my love for them and sad tears because of how badly I miss them.
have soo much fun shopping, picking out a phone, and celebrating your 7 year old! Holy cow!! I cannot believe he is 7!!
Love you all soo much!
I think this is very true. About your connection with Chelsea. I bet your mom feels it too. You’re such a great sister, Amanda.
i know, i am the mother of a 7 year old! what! i remember being 7 like it was yesterday! thanks for always empathizing with me-i know you are there for me for anything. i love you so much
Chelsea, Maybe you could try and think of that piece of you as happy to be with Trek, feel sad for it being separate from you but happy that it is still with Trek where ever he is:) Love your honesty in writing! And the fact that you guys did that scooter ride! You’re a rock star!
I love this! What a wonderful way to look at that empty spot we all have for the ones we love who are in a different place now!
thank you so much Cathy, there is no perfect way to mourn, it is hard work and very confusing. it means a lot your kind words
great idea Mary that is so sweet to think of. the scooter ride was awesome-i know you and i are being pushed along to be super women by our guys, you could have done it too:)
Love this post, you’re an awesome mother! Hope Peyton has a great birthday!
enjoy your ride back!!
thank you so much Danielle, i think the same about you. xoxo
Your post made me think of a quote I saw on Pinterest today. it said “In french you don’t really say “I miss you”. You say “tu me manques” which means “You are missing from me”
And tell Peyton Happy Birthday from me!
i am going to have to borrow this. I cried when i read it, thank you so much for sharing, it captures exactly what i feel. much love
Woohoo – you made it down the mountain! So proud of all of you:) How nice to be able to visit with Jen & Colt. I’m sure they loved seeing all of you, too. I so wish we could be there to celebrate Peyton’s birthday. Hopefully we can visit soon & have another celebration. Loved the pictures of Trek – the one of all three boys has always been one of my favorites. And you’re right – he IS so worth missing. I hope you can continue to get some good sleep. I thought it funny you accidentally locked yourself out – hope you eventually got back in to get your shoes & then your coffee:) And “don’t worry about a thing, every little thing is gonna be alright” my sweet Chelsea. I love you so much and miss you even more. Can hardly wait to see you again & hug & kiss you.
we miss you too and can’t wait to see you, everytime we go out we say, “papa t would like this or nana would love this”. got my shoes and coffee:) love you
Whew…sounds like a fun & tiring trip, but glad you made it. So glad you got to visit with friends and enjoy that special time. Happy birthday, Peyton and way to go to get two celebrations out of it! Sorry you locked yourself out or the room, but at least you had something to do. I continue to pray for peace in your heart and more sleep each night. Thanks for the pictures of Trek….he is so precious. Lots of love to all!
thanks aunt jalene, i knocked on the door quietly and conner was up so we snuck off to starbucks together:) we think about jared and you all the time, we love you so much-xoxo
I love the photo of your three boys, they are all so precious!
thank you so much Tanya-xoxo