“worry about your own self” I scolded myself in my head today. Peyton and I were cruising through the countryside of Thailand heading back to our new house. Peyton was talking about if and why mammoths were extinct and why people killed all the buffalo, it was actually an interesting conversation, but I was lost in my own thoughts. I was thinking of a few life tips for Jarrett to make him a better person and in return that would surely make me a better one.
I had just passed a sign that read “Pai-in love”, and it sparked a thought which led me to think, “i need to let Jarrett know we need to be more lovey dovey, that would add some spice to our lives and make it a little more like when we were dating”. Then I thought, “or you could just be more lovey dovey and that is a guarantee that Jarrett would respond in kind”.
I thought about my tendency to try to fix the world around me in order to make my life better. How I spend so much energy on worrying about how others affect me when I could just use that energy to have a happy day. It seems like when I see something I want changed in my life I almost always look to Jarrett to fix it or blame him for it not being perfect in the first place.
what a silly thought
Then I knew exactly what I needed to do. Clear my mind of what anyone else does around me and just focus on being the best Chelsea I can be. In reality the very extra thought that Jarrett should contribute to this effort makes it even more difficult to achieve my goal. The only one who can truly make my life wonderful and beautiful is me.
So my new motto for the next few days, is “worry about your own self Chelsea”. I have complete control to make every day the best day ever, I know that will be contagious to my family and in turn we will have have a rockin fun life.
(oooh Jarrett is going to love this! ha, no nagging for a few days!)
Great advice & also very true. It’s hard to live that way when we let the little things of daily life consume us, especially when things don’t go the way we want. I’m very guilty of this myself – of which I’m sure Terry will be very surprised to learn:) You are an inspiration, Chelsea, and I know you’re going to have a rockin’ fun life:) Love and miss all of you!
bahaha, I am sure Daddy had no clue you were not perfect!
love you mama
So true! I took some training a few years ago and one of the items that I learned was that you can only control you and your thoughts and actions. Controlling another persons actions and thoughts is impossible and frustrating.
thanks Don, yes it so impossible, so why not just use my energy on being happy?!
Such good advice Chelsea! I always say don’t stress the little things in life! It will only make the big things that come our way harder to handle and choosing to be happy and look at the bright side of things only makes each task at hand and each day better! Nothing could be more true than WE determine how happy we can be
and it is so true that smiles are contagious!
Being around someone who is happy makes it hard to be grumpy!
i know, i love being around silly and joyful people, it makes everyone around them happier
How wonderful that you are in a place, both physically and emotionally, to be able to do that Chelsea. It is true that we can only control ourselves and in my experience, when we stick to that a lot of the rest of the things we would like to change do! Since you are such a nurturer, your “Worry about your own self, Chelsea” may happen in fits and starts, but it is always a good thing to be striving for. When take care ouf ourselves, we are best equipped to take care of those we love and wish to care for. The house is an absolute paradise and looks like the most wonderful, peaceful and beautiful place to take care of you!
i had a good laugh about your “fits and starts” b/c its clever and so true! i have already had more “fits” then “starts” ,but I have a good feeling
I already think the world of you and Jarrett, but thank you for this reminder. You are truly amazing sister! if only there were more people in the world like you…it would be a rockin world!
thanks sweet sister, i think the world needs more Amanda’s!
If we all worried about our own self, this world would be a much better place! Thanks for the reminder! I have figured out these last 5 years that I am the ONE & ONLY person who can make me happy! All others around me may be contributors, but I’m the deciding factor, so I make a daily choice to know & live by this fact. Good luck on succeeding with your new goal…..I know you can do this because it’s a choice that must start right where you are starting! Lots of love!
thanks aunt Jalene, and it is obvious when I am around you that you have mastered this, you are so fun and confident and happy. I am so proud of you
I totally do this too. It always seems like if my husband would just do this or not do that, it would fix everything. But, my mom always tells me you can only fix yourself. So true, but frustrating at times. Thanks for the reminder. My husband will thank you
haha, my husband thanked me too:)
Bless your heart, Chelsea! This is one of your most inspiring and heartfelt posts ever, and believe it or not, your timing couldn’t have been more spot on for me! Thank you for sharing such a beautiful part of your heart and soul…..I know Trek is beaming with pride from up above at his generous and loving mommy. They say that to the world we may be one person, but to one person, we may be the world….thanks for helping me today. xoxoxo
thank you Leslie for that kind encouragement! I am glad that it helped your day a little. much love ,Chelsea
Go Chelsea go!! I totally believe everything with all my might you just wrote. I know it’s easier said then done …. But I know you can do it!!
thanks Shannon-it is so hard, why can’t I just be a princess and have everything my way? hehe
Gandhi said, “be the change you want to see in the world”. I like that a lot.
I think that sums up your post! We are to inspire change. Love that. I’m happy to read your post… many people never come to this life-changing realization! It’s one of the major keys to true inner happiness!
thanks Lacy, i think you mastered it long ago, you have always amazed me since i met you in college how independent and full of life you are. i am so glad to call you friend
Aw, thanks Chelsea!
You’re so sweet! and TOO kind… as we each move on to new places and encounter different people, we are always re tested in this! I’m glad to call YOU friend! I’ve always felt the same about you!
Oh wow. I needed this reminder. Sending the link to my hubby.
just to let him know I’ll be a little bit nicer in the next few days. Thanks Chelsea!
thank Marie:) that is so sweet that you are sending it to your hubby, that made me smile!
And as stated my wife did send me the link
And it’s good advice and a good reminder that happiness lies within. We chose how events affect us. We allow how the action of others affects us. It’s not easy skill to master, however we should all practice it.
I also must say that you’ve been a source of inspiration for my wife and have had a very positive impact on her life.
Our family wears the “Embrace Life” bracelets and tattoos proudly.
wow, thank you Emile, that is so kind and means a lot to me. Thank you for supporting Trek and our family, that means so much to us.
That is my husband, by the way. He wants to make sure you know.
Hehehe…We are stalking your blog again.
thanks Marie:) i felt special that he took the time to comment!
That motto is so true and made me think about how to make each day better. You can definitly feel the love between you 2 in the picture of you guys. <3.
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thanks Tai! i do love that guy-it is so special to make our dreams come true together (even if he does not always do it my way:)